Setting a Goal

Setting a goal is key to transforming your dreams into reality. It is the road to building your self esteem. When you have objectives, you will have the vision to achieve your goals.

Sometimes, a passion will grab us by the tail and carry us along. This happened to me in when I learned to fly an airplane. 

In a situation where you fall into something you never dreamed of doing and get caught up in it, goals and objectives aren't necessary. The self motivation is in place. But for most dreams in life we need goals to progress from wish to reality.

Goal Setting Tools

Here is a top way to begin to create your vision. I call it Future Gazing.

Ask yourself the question: What do I want my life to look like in 5 years from now? Now make a list of 10 things you'd like to achieve in five years. Stretch your imagination.

Here are seven questions to help you. Your answers are in the context of the best of all possible worlds:

  1. Where do I want to be living?
  2. Where do I want to be in my career/education?
  3. What do I want to have time to do in my spare hours?
  4. How much money do I want (need) to be making?
  5. What do I want more of in my life than I have now?
  6. What kind of friends and relationships would I like to have more of
  7. What passion/skill/talent do I want to honor?

Now from this list, begin to map out your goals. For help on setting a goal, go to Tips on Setting Goals.

Why Setting a Goal is Important

1. To help us achieve clarity around what we want.

2. To make us accountable to ourselves and to others.

3. To lead to success by fostering focus and discipline.

My Story Around Goal Setting

When my husband, Bob, bought a small airplane and asked me to fly with him from Brampton, Ontario to Vancouver, British Columbia, I was shocked because I didn't think his love for planes would ever involve me.

"Just think," I remember him saying, "We'll cross the Rockies four times." I shuddered because I knew his passion for flying, I knew he wanted me in the cockpit, I'm terrified of heights and had a fear of flying. 

Somewhere over the Prairies, I looked at the ground 5 000 feet below, then to the maze of cockpit instruments. My hands were white knuckled and clammy. 

I looked left to my husband wearing his headphones and a smile and I knew in that instant that if something happened to him, we'd both go down. So I vowed to learn to land the plane if he ever asked me to fly west with him again.

Two years later, Bob said, "How about we fly to Dawson City this summer. Just think, we'd cross the Rockies six times this trip!" I started flying lessons the next day. My flying instructor didn't bat an eye when I said, "I just want to learn to land the plane." 

After three months of flying straight and level, performing turns, spins and spiral dives, I was able to land the plane. We took off for Dawson City from the Brampton Flying Club the day after I had earned my Radio Operator's license and Student Pilot Permit. 

Setting a goal didn't occur to me when I started taking those lessons. When a goal for life is so in your face and necessary, it doesn't need writing down. If you have to get a job to feed your family, for example, you aren't going to take the time to set a goal because you're so motivated to find one. 

Five Goal Setting Secrets

1. Recognize your potential to achieve the goal. Without a quick reality check, you might be trying to achieve more than possible at that time. Being realistic is important.

2. Craft your goal as though you will achieve it.

3. Increase your probability of achievement by finding the right people to support you, getting the financing you need, or putting yourself in the right place at the right time.

4. Identify a successful role model, and take the same kind of actions as him/her.

5. Believe in yourself. Know you can make it happen.

Setting a goal will give you more energy. It will help you relax. It will help you accomplish more with less effort. It's one of the most important keys to success.

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