School bullying is when one student hurts or frightens another physically or emotionally, when the bully uses verbal threats and intimidation and physical strength to intimidate and harass the victim.
It happens on the way to and from school, in school hallways, at lockers and in playgrounds. It takes place in classrooms if the bully and victim share classrooms. Cyberbullying
takes place on the internet in chat rooms and through cell phones via calling or text messaging. This abuse has serious consequences for both the bully and the victim.
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Examples of School Bullying
- Physically hurting the victim
- Spreading rumors in person or through technology
- Excluding the victim or ganging up on him/her
- Threatening the victim
- Name calling
- Destroying or stealing belongings
- Sending hurtful threatening emails, texts, or instant messages
- Posting hurtful messages or pictures of someone on the internet
Reasons for School Bullying
Teen and younger bullies come from a variety of backgrounds. Bullies have a variety of reasons for bullying
- It makes them feel like they are in control or that they are smarter, stronger or better than their victims.
- They want to fit in with a crowd.
- They are afraid others will bully them if they aren’t bullies.
- They see other students or family members bullying.
- Bullies feel powerful when victimizing others.
School Bullying Consequences For The Bully
Bullying teens are more likely to
- Drop out of school
- Use drugs, tobacco or alcohol
- Get into fights
- Vandalize property
- Be convicted of a crime, especially if they are male
- Abuse their spouse or children in adulthood
School Bullying Affects on the VictimVictims of bulling may also suffer long-term negative effects from bullying. Some of these are
- Physical injury.
- Feeling unsafe.
- Lower feelings of self worth.
- Increased risk for depression, self injury or suicide lasting into adulthood.
- Negative coping behavior, such as acting out in violent ways or withdrawing.
- Poor school performance.
- Skipping school to avoid bullying.
School Bullying Signs of Abuse in the Victim
- Unexplained injuries.
- Returning home from school with clothing or belongings damaged or missing.
- Avoiding going to school or wanting to take long routes to and from school.
- Complaining of aches and pains in order to avoid attending classes.
- Loss of interest in school or other activities.
- Changes in sleep patterns or appetite.
- Being socially isolated.
- Talking about needing protection.
- Becoming moody, depressed, or withdrawn. Losing self esteem.
School Bullying Prevention
Preventing the form of abuse needs many approaches. Parents, teachers, school administrations and the community need to be involved in order to solve the problem. If you are being bullied don’t suffer in silence. Ask someone for help. Being bullied is not your fault.
- Avoid being alone when a bully is near. Bullies usually avoid groups of people.
- Let your parents, a trusted teacher or school counselor know that you are being bullied. Know that it is not your fault that you are bullied.
- Calmly tell bully to stop. Walk away. Avoid reacting with violence or bullying back. This can make the problem worse.
- Ignore or block threatening electronic messages. Open only those from people you know. If you do read a harassing message, make a copy of it. Show it to a trusted adult and ask for help.
- Get involved in school activities or clubs. Surround yourself with positive environments.
- If you are a parent, talk to an be engaged with your children. Listen to them. Involve the bully’s parents and school administration.
- If a friend is being bullied, support him or her and involve others to get help.
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