Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

Emotional Intelligence and leadership is important. If you have followers and if you influence people, you have emotional intelligence and will inspire people as a leader.

If you think you would like a management or leadership position, ask yourself the following ten questions

1. Do I like supervising other people?
2. Do I like administrative tasks and paperwork?
3. Would I be happy to give up the hands on aspect of my current job?
4. Would I like to do performance reviews on other employees?
5. Would I like to report on the performance of my coworkers to my boss?
6. Do I like setting goals for my group and ensuring that the group meets these goals?
7. Am I good at keeping my cool when others around me are stressing me out?
8. Am I good at keeping others' cool when they are stressed out?
9. Do I like helping other people solve problems?
10. Am I a good listener?


If some of these tasks excite you, then meet with your boss around working towards a position of leadership. A position of responsibility will be very different from the work you do now.

For a definition and to check your own level of emotional intelligence, have a look at emotional intelligence.

To boost emotional intelligence see improving your emotional intelligence.

To build your success in business , have a look at emotional intelligence in business.

For information on emotional intelligence tests , jump to test your emotional intelligence.

How to Gain Followers with Your Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

If you want to lead others, you will need to get their attention, set objectives for them and monitor their performance. Here’s how to know if people are listening to you. Answer yes or no to the following questions:
1. People at work pay attention to what I say.
2. Co-workers ask my opinion on work issues.
3. I can change other people’s behavior.
4. Other people see me as a source of new or interesting information.
5. People at work find me trustworthy and can confide in me.

Emotional intelligence and leadership requires empathy. Here are six ways to boost your empathic skill

1. Pay attention to people with whom you work.
2. Find out about your colleagues’ interests.
3. Think about whether you accurately understand your colleagues’ concerns.
4. Reflect on whether you accurately express their stated concerns to them.
5. Show others that you are interested in them.
6. Avoid making yourself the center of attention.
If you have compassion for others, they will have compassion for you.

Twelve Top Leadership Skills for Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

1. Courage
2. Focus
3. Communication
4. Energy
5. Compassion
6. Conviction
7. Integrity
8. Passion
9. Tolerance
10. Flexibility
11. Lifelong learning
12. Giver of meaning to others’ lives.

How to Encourage Cooperation in Others for Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

If you want to get people to work for you, let them know how they can benefit. If they feel involved, valued by you and contributing to the general effort, they will want to cooperate. You want your coworkers to feel good about themselves. If they trust and value you, they will help you.

Three Ways to Help Your Colleagues and Coworkers Change and to Cooperate with You

1. Have high self regard. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Know how to strike a balance between self confidence and arrogance.
2. Be optimistic. People like being around those who are optimistic and happy. Have you ever noticed how some people who complain and talk about themselves are always alone at a party? There’s no better way to clear a room than to be miserable all the time. Try to be happy not sad, an optimist not a pessimist, self assured but not arrogant.
3. Choose to be Happy. Like optimism, happiness attracts people. Happiness is contagious and adds to your likability.

Five Top Tips for Optimism in Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

1. Focus on the positive.
2. Look for solutions rather than problems.
3. Tell people their strengths.
4. Focus on your successes not your failures.
5. Treat perceived failures as learning experiences.

Five Ways to Lead People for Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

1. Set an example through your words and actions. Walk the talk.
2. Share your vision. Inspire others with your view for the future.
3. Strive for change. Look for improvement and growth.
4. Support others to act. Being a leader means that you have followers.
Use we rather than I when to talk to your group.
5. Recognize and reward the contributions of others.

You need emotional intelligence to be a successful leader!

Four Qualities of All Successful Leaders

1. Leaders are centered and grounded with high self regard, balanced lives, self awareness and composure under pressure. They are socially responsible, tolerate stress well, have control over impulses and are optimistic.
2. Leaders have the ability to take action. They take into account the views of others when making decisions. After making decisions, good leaders take action. Leaders evaluate the process they create, making adjustments when necessary. Good leaders are assertive, independent.
3. Leaders invite others to participate. They get people involved and put people at ease. They listen to others and are able to manage objections. They aim for what is best for the own organization not for their own egos. Leaders involve everyone in the decision making process. Excellent leaders have empathy and good impulse control.
4. Leaders are tough minded. They have a high sense of self regard and stress tolerance.

Twenty Top Ways of Knowing if You Have Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

In your journal, respond to the following statements

1. I am direct with others about what I think.
2. I am thoughtful about the people I work with.
3. I know the people I can count on.
4. I don’t get ruffled by stress.
5. I act in a purposeful way.
6. I can easily read what others are thinking.
7. I know what I’m good at.
8. I am a self starter.
9. I get things done.
10. I am optimistic.
11. It is easy for me to meet new people.
12. People come to me for advice.
13. I prefer socializing to being alone.
14. I’m patient with people.
15. I have a large contact list.
16. I love bouncing ideas off people.
17. I rarely raise my voice.
18. I have a number of friends with whom I disagree on issues such as politics and religion.
19. People share their problems with me.
20. I love bouncing ideas off people.


Use these ideas to develop your emotional and leadership skills.

Set goals for your leadership success. Consider hiring a coach or find a mentor in your firm or organization. Most people are pleased to be asked!

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