Body Language Eyes

Body language eyes reveals your thoughts, attitudes and emotions more than any other body language. Eyes are the gateway to the soul and they reflect what is going on inside of us. With our eyes we communicate our feelings to others. We also can read other people's emotions through their eyes. 

Some people know how to use their body language eyes to get sympathy, convey sexual interest, or to say, “Stay away.” 

For information on other aspects of body language, check out — 

Body Language 
Body Language Signs 
Body Language Communication 
Reading Body Language 

With practice you can communicate and read with your eyes the things you and others won’t say aloud. You can learn to command attention, display interest, show disapproval, create intimate feelings and demonstrate dominance. 

The Power of the Held Gaze


Establishing and maintaining eye contact comfortably with another person is the basis for successful communication by body language eyes. Good eye contact gives the person with whom you are communicating a feeling of well being and trust. 

If you are unable to establish body language eye contact, the other person will feel discomfort. He or she might see dishonesty, anger or low self esteem in your eyes. 

The intensity and length of time of the gaze influences the meaning of the gaze. When a person holds your gaze s/he is communicating interest or anger and hostility. To tell the difference, when the gaze shows interest, the pupils are dilated. When the gaze is hostile, the pupils are constricted. 

You show interest when you fix your gaze on a person slightly longer than normal. Holding the look for more than two or three seconds shows interest. 

If you want to build rapport with someone, research has shown that you will have to meet the person’s gaze at least 60-70% of the time. Given the choice of working with someone who has engaging eye contact and some who appears nervous and timid, you will probably choose the person who can establish body language eye contact. 

So if you feel uncomfortable with eye contact, practice. The more confident and trustworthy you appear, the more rewarding your interaction with the other person will be. 

To create intimate feelings

 
By letting your gaze wander from the person’s eyes down the face and below the chin to other parts of the body, you are moving way beyond the world of business or a friendly ‘hello.’ When you drop your gaze, you show attraction to that person. If the look is returned, then you probably have begun a new relationship. 

To show disapproval and disagreement

Beady eyes, snake eyes and shooting daggers with the eyes are signs of disapproval. If someone holds your gaze more than two thirds of the time and the pupils are constricted, he or she is probably sending you a negative message. If you can hold the gaze, too, without looking away in submission, you too can send a message of disagreement. Body language eyes is powerful. 

To show dominance, people use eye contact with confidence. Their eye movements are usually slow and smooth. They are comfortable establishing eye contact and hold a gaze for an appropriate amount of time. 

If you want to be taken seriously in a business situation, keep your gaze in the triangular area between the eyes and the center of the forehead. 

The wandering eye or breaking your eye contact 


Here are some of the reasons for avoiding eye contact —

  • To flee from an encounter when you think you might lose attention or an argument.
  • As a sign of submission when someone makes you feel ill at ease.
  • To avoid confrontation when anxious.
  • As a sign of uncomfortable feelings of embarrassment, sadness or shame.
  • To prompt another person’s attention. Pulling your eyes away can show interest – a kind of flirtation.

Movements that avoid or minimize eye contact

  • The eye shuttle. When people flick their eyes back and forth, they are probably looking for an escape route.
  • The sideways glance can mean a few things. If you look at someone out of the corner of your eye and smile, you show interest. Looking out of the corner of your eye with a raised eyebrow shows interest too. If someone looks out of the corner of an eye when you are talking to him or her, it would be best to change the subject because the listener isn’t interested in what you are saying. 
    People look towards things they are interested in and away from things that don’t. You will show lack of interest by not looking at someone when they are speaking to you.
  • The eye dip. Averting your eyes downward is an attempt to hide your feelings. It also can mean that to give control to the person who is speaking.

Body language eyes always is the truest form of body language. Eyes don’t lie. In a situation where you are seeing conflicting body language, look at the person’s eyes for the real meaning. 

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