An artist date is a powerful tool for improving self esteem. It will help you to enter the state of mind Eckhart Tolle describes in The Power of Now, A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment . Taking time for ourselves is hard in this fast paced world of ours. So have a look at Setting a Goal and Tips on Setting Goals to make it happen.
A few years ago I left home with a friend for six weeks in Asia with a three week trek in the Himalaya. It was the longest artist date I had ever taken and the richest. I had trained for eight months, was fit and ready for the most immense mountains in the world — and I hoped, Everest Base Camp.
The trek was powerful. I felt humbled among those huge towering white craggy mountains. The air's quiet serenity and the intensity of the climb — especially at altitudes of up to 18 500 feet, took me to an inner world I had hardly known or experienced before.
Maybe you are thinking that you'll never trek in the Himalaya. No worries. You can have fantastic date experiences right in your own backyard!
An artist date with yourself will be a rich and powerful mini-journey. Special times alone with yourself will improve your mood and your understanding of yourself. An artist date is a little like a mind altering substance.
In the photo above I'm standing with my trekking partner on top of Kala Pattar in front of Mt. Everest and overlooking Base Camp Everest.
Artist date is a term created by Julia Cameron in The Artist Way to describe "a block of time, perhaps two hours weekly, especially set aside and committed to nurturing your creative consciousness, you inner artist." As Cameron says, "spending time in solitude with your inner child is essential to self nurturing."
Before you begin to think that you don't have a creative bone in your body, a creativity date doesn't mean that you have to become an painter or a crafts person or even that you have to become creative — although we all have an artist within us whether we know it or not.
A short weekly excursion or play date is a powerful way to help discover the answers to those difficult questions we yearn to know the answers to: 'Who am I?' and 'Why am I here?' and 'How can I grow, emotionally and spiritually?'
About ten years ago when I finally had more time for myself, I started creating weekly creativity dates. Gradually, I learned more about who I was and how to nurture myself.
We all live hectic lives where so little time is left over for ourselves. That's why we often have difficulty answering those hard life questions and understanding self intimacy. In fact many of us avoid times alone with ourselves for fear that we'll delve too deeply and find things we don't want to know! That's part of the reason we rush around so frantically.
A weekly special date will give you powerful insights into who your are and supply you with precious moments of calm and peace. It is from the these moments of peace and serenity and from our accomplishments that we build our self esteem.
1. Go for a long walk to a new location.
2. Go to the theater.
3. Buy some inexpensive paints, paper and a brush. Put color to paper. Don't pay any attention to your inner critic saying your art isn't beautiful.
4.Learn to play a musical instrument. The Djembe, an African drum is fantastic for improving focus, boosting creativity and increasing brain power.
5.Find a park bench and watch people.
6.Enjoy a spa or a massage.
7.Buy an inexpensive point and shoot camera. Look at our colorful, textured world through another lens. Create amazing images. Take vertical shots too. Find scenes with strong diagonals and calming horizontals. Peek into the center of a flower. Snap a water droplet. Photograph kids at play.
8.Write in a journal. Anything that comes to mind. Again, don't listen to your inner censor!
9.Start a garden.
10.Try out pottery or another way of working with your hands.
Imagine you are in a car driving along towards your destination You drift off into your thoughts and all of a sudden, you arrive at your destination. But you have no idea how you got there. Somehow, you were on auto pilot.
You were thinking and dreaming in the world of your inner self. While that's not the best way to drive, for sure, it is in this other place, this other world that we find our life spirit, our inner self. That is the place the artist date creates for us. It feeds our soul.
During your creativity date, you'll absorb the world around you. You'll fill your well and bring images into yourself.
The kind of date is a powerful self esteem builder because it deepens your self knowledge by putting you into the power of now — where your ego is in the background.
"One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time." Andre Gide
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